Writing your wedding vows is intimate and personal, and there's not necessarily a correct way to write your vows. Sometimes the most challenging part in writing your wedding vows is just starting. There are a few things to remember to make your vows unforgettable and signify commitment and devotion to your significant other. While guests, family, and friends will be at your wedding, it's important to remember that this moment is just between you and your partner, and the words shared are special.
During all the planning, the invitations, the colors, décor, venue, and vendors, when it comes to your vows, take a moment to pause and reminisce on the love you have for one another and envision the life you are creating together. This can include your values, principles, legacy, shared goals, family, etc. Then ask yourself these key questions.
What is the format and structure of your vows?
Will you and your partner have freely flowing writing or a structure to your vows? Structure to vows can be a great way to defeat writer's block and add symmetry to your and your partner's writing. It can start with
-Promises to one another (no hyperboles, promises you can keep)
However, if both you and your partner have exuberant personalities and want to let your creativity speak beyond the bullet point structure, freely writing can be a beautiful way to show exactly who you and your partner is as people.
Do you want to share your vows privately or publicly?
You don't have to share your personal vows during the ceremony. Your wedding day is about you and your partner. What some couples choose to do is share their more intimate and intentional vows before the ceremony, typically during a First Look. The bride and groom can also write letters to each other and exchange the letters during the ceremony to read privately.
If you want to voice your love during your ceremony, you should absolutely do it! For some couples, they want to scream from the top of the world that they love their best friend and share their love with friends and family.
My biggest recommendation is to keep the wedding vows on paper. It can be a vow book, printed paper, a letter, but cell phones and other tech should be kept to a minimum.
How do you express your love for one another?
Are you quick-witted, sassy, and have lots of banter? Or are you open, sentimental, and emotional? Stay genuine and authentic about how you and your partner show love to each other every day. Talking to your partner about this can help ease any stress about writing your vows. You will know what to expect and how to write your vows from there. It's just about being yourself.